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Friday, April 20, 2018

By Angela Cox 

Everyone comes to a place in life where they'll arrive at a crossroad that could break the pattern of what they're used too or perceive to be right. Whether its moving out of state, separating from a toxic relationship, starting a new job, getting married, and the list goes on, its important to have clarity of thought when making tough decisions. Everyone comes to a place where the "rubber meets the road" because its all a part of our journey in life, and occurs so we can make changes for the better.

At these critical points in life, we need sound direction or what I call a "Navigator" (someone that will help direct the course) to be guided in the right manner, so we can arrive at our  destination safe and sound. 

At times like these, too many opinions can be dangerous, especially when they come from people that's familiar with us and are too emotionally attached to give us sound advise instead of their own opinions.

In my early twenties (21 to be exact)   I had to make a life changing decision about separating from a relationship that was highly toxic, filled with manipulation, mental and  physical abuse. During that time, I compromised very important values,which included my mental well being and safety just so my children could have a father in their life, but  also out of fear of being alone, (accompanied by the numerous opinions of others).

Being young and naive to people and their human nature, I sought guidance about my situation  from those that  knew me, (but didn't know the depths of my pain) including those that were masters of disguise that pretended to like me and have my best interest in mind. Among those were also the so called "Experts" that thought I was too young and dumb to make a decision without their expertise. As a result of listening to all of the opinions, it brought on more confusion and I began to question if I was making the right decision to separate from this unhealthy relationship at all.  

It wasn't until I was able to separate from all of the familiar faces and opinions  that I was able to find clear, balanced,  healthy advice and it wasn't until I was able to take the time to go to the ultimate Guide and Navigator that gives life to all,  which is God, in prayer to get answers for my dilemma. Sometimes it's not until  we're in a place of solitude, that God can speak to us by making things clear and opening  our eyes to reality. He'll also send someone that's not familiar with our history to give us clear, sound guidance that makes sense, even if it doesn't seem like the easiest choice at the time, but will produce the best results.

Too many times, we consult with the wrong people with the attempt of getting the best results.  We feel that if people are close to us or very familiar with us, then they'll also have our best interest in mind, but usually, the same people are just as unhealthy as we are. Besides, God is not the author of confusion but peace and does not intend for us to cast all of our cares on people, tell them all of our business, and look to everybody under the sun for counsel. He wants us to cast our cares on Him (First) because He cares for us (I Peter 5:7) He knows us inside out and has our best interest at heart.

Thursday, April 19, 2018


By: Keesah Pelzer 

When I was younger there was a saying in my household that went, “Don’t say goodbye, say see you later”. Because of that saying, for a very long time I had trouble with allowing people to leave out of my life. Somehow I thought that if I said goodbye I would never see them again and I wouldn’t be ok with it... Even if the person didn’t mean me well. 

I think it’s important that we all come to the realization that people come and go. That’s just apart of life. The people who we think are going to be friends with us forever, are just not! The places we think we’re going stay, we just aren’t! Nothing really ever goes according to how we  map them out to be. 

Sometimes the Most High will allow a situation to interrupt our lives. He’ll physically remove people just to get us into a place where He can deal with what’s been troubling us. Of course Its going to be uncomfortable and uncertain at the moment, but just know that it’s for our own good. So when it’s time to say goodbye to people, places or things, it’s not the end of the world. It’s just the beginning-A new start for you! 

Wednesday, April 18, 2018

Leaves Shed In Transition

By: Jateia Rushing 

Don’t be too surprised or dismayed by the friends and family that begin to fall off or disconnect from you in your transitional journey. As we change for the betterment of ourselves. Everything around is going to change as well. Those we hung out with we won’t have a mutual connection anymore. As we transition our minds and perceptions will and it will shift a lot dead weighted relationships and people. But it’s for your good. Leaves shed in the fall for the transition to winter.

Tuesday, April 17, 2018

Dress Up For Yourself

By: Jateia Rushing 

Every once in while or just more frequently we should go out our way for ourselves. Put on some make up, do your hair, get your nails, get a pedicure, soak in a bathtub with bubbles. Pamper yourself and indulge and let down your hair. Relax and rest from the tedious tasks of life, duties, and responsibilities. Of course, we want to keep up with our normal day to day business and keep our houses in order but taking care of bodies is a part of the equation as well. Ladies take care of yourself the way you want others to love and care for you.

Monday, April 16, 2018

Deal With It

By: Keesah Pelzer

Yesterday was a pretty normal day for me, in terms of my weekly routine of getting my girls dressed for our Sabbath. For the most part, their clothes, shoes and socks are always laid out for them, just to ensure that everything runs smoothly. We were coming down to the wire, and as I attempted to do my second eldest daughters hair, I found myself getting frustrated. She is definitely the child  who does not like to get her hair done, so I often find myself doing something quick & easy, and depending upon what style she already has in her hair, I may even skip a few days. 

As I was fighting to comb through her hair, I thought to myself, “How did her hair get to this point?!” It was unmanageable, overwhelming and quite frankly, out of control. Almost immediately, my mind went to how it is when we don’t deal with situations as they come up. They become just like unkept hair, or worse. 

When we choose to turn a blind eye or a deaf ear to the problems that arise in our lives, it only makes things worse down the line. We become bound up in our minds which translates to how we do things in our every day lives. Yes, it may seem like ignoring everything is the best approach for the time being, but in doing so our problems never truly disappear. 

Many of us have different reasons as to why we choose to avoid our issues, but when things feel too overwhelming and you feel like there are so many things that you have to deal with, first of all, let me start by saying take it one day at a time. A little bit of progress each day adds up. Also, pray to the Most High and ask Him to give you strength and courage to deal with the things that will ultimately set you free.

Sunday, April 15, 2018

Set Boundaries With Your Day Ones

By: Jateia Rushing

From day one boundaries should be clearly set and established. Whether it be for personal, professional, or casual settings and relationships, lines should be drawn. Of course it’s not meant to offend others but it’s a formal and informal way of keeping mutual respect, knowing and honoring each other’s comfortability limits, and staying in control of what is acceptable around you. It’s a protection barrier to avoid others from dealing with you inappropriately and ruining growing relationships. When we don’t, people will assume there is no restrictions or draw their own lines that may or may not be the same as your own. It’s very important to set these limits set up from the start because it gets harder later in the relationship or recurring situations because the first impression wasn’t structured now they will test your boundaries because the were not in place in the beginning.

Saturday, April 14, 2018

By: Jateia Rushing

We all believe to be in control of our own life but that couldn’t be farther from the truth. We have control over our actions and decisions but the results and outcomes are out of our hands. We can make plans and back up plans to the original plans and even prepare for our plans to not go as we thought and still not be able to get the results we want. So it’s better to stop and take a breath and relax and allow things to grow where they grow. When things don’t go our way, stressing over it and trying to fix it only makes it worst. We can plant the seed but we don’t control how it grows, when it will sprout, or how far the roots will spread. The Most High knows the plans He has for each and every one of us so breathe, relax and trust in His plan and hold on.

Friday, April 13, 2018

By: Jateia Rushing 

We race through our days and routines like robots completely zoned out and unattached and connected to life. Slowing down is the cure. Taking your time and embracing each moments in your life to create more precious memories. A lot of the time we are unhappy because we never take the time to breathe, relax, and enjoy what we have. We’re too busy moving around restlessly trying to find peace when peace is state mind not something that we can obtain by working, making money, or buying miscellaneous things. You can truly only find peace through rest and mental cleaning. But it’s not possible to achieve if you never take time out to sit and clear your mind from all your racing thoughts. It’s not stressing, worrying, and working your hands to the bone has been effective anyway so you might as well sit back and let the pieces fall as they may and enjoy what have.

Thursday, April 12, 2018

Time To Transition

By: Keesah Pelzer

When it’s our time to transition from one place to another in our lives, it’s natural to want to keep all lines of communication open with those we have met along the way. The only problem is...everyone’s not supposed to Transition with us. 

Think of it this way- Would you wear a North Face jacket or hoodie in ninety degree weather? Sounds silly, doesn’t it? Well, that’s the equivalence of bringing people from last season, or the season before that into something new! That jacket/ hoodie has already served its purpose in winter and spring. It’s not necessary for the summer. 

There’s a scripture that reads, “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” (Ecclesiastics 3:1-8). Seasons can be for a few days or even a few weeks, but it’s always important to know when it’s time to let people go. 

Wednesday, April 11, 2018

A Seed Planted

By: Jateia Rushing

Not amounting to much of anything, my worth and value not seen with the naked eye

Covered by a shell meant to keep in my potential, my protector and
prison guard

Casted into the dirt and covered deeply in the mud, struggling to breathe

Suffocated by the pressure, my shell will crack and break

The environment I’ve known since birth all gone, I have outgrown those four walls

Screaming for help to only be drowned by water but a ray of light
cries out, grow my daughter

I fight my way through the darkness, spreading out in all directions

Learning to adapt to my habitat, my transformation is beginning to break out

I’ve been down here so long hidden in the dirt, I’ve almost been forgotten

But I sprout up like a daisy waving in wind, I endured and survived

It will not be long now until I grow high as the sky, hovering like a mountain

With beautiful fruits hanging from the branches of the life I’ve sprouted out through pain and suffering

I’m a planted seed, nothing was easy about it.

My transition from seed to tree, was my transformation from bondage to free.

Tuesday, April 10, 2018

Taking A Second Look At Our Food

By: Jateia Rushing

Making healthier food selections is more than just adding vegetables
to your plate and calling it a day. All of the food we consume need to
looked over. It’s like going over to a friend’s house for dinner and
they cooked something so delicious and you’re interested in the recipe
and you find out something is in the food that wasn’t expected to be
in there. We need to take a second look at our food we eat and feed
our children. We can’t trust all these food companies with our health,
our life, or our families. We need to be aware of what is on our
dinner tables. Changing your eating habits take time and strong will
because we have been eating unconsciously for so long that the habits
are hard to break, but working on changing your food choices a meal at
a time will be so beneficial in the end for our minds and bodies.

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