By Angela Cox
Everyone comes to a place in life where they'll arrive at a crossroad that could break the pattern of what they're used too or perceive to be right. Whether its moving out of state, separating from a toxic relationship, starting a new job, getting married, and the list goes on, its important to have clarity of thought when making tough decisions. Everyone comes to a place where the "rubber meets the road" because its all a part of our journey in life, and occurs so we can make changes for the better.
At these critical points in life, we need sound direction or what I call a "Navigator" (someone that will help direct the course) to be guided in the right manner, so we can arrive at our destination safe and sound.
At times like these, too many opinions can be dangerous, especially when they come from people that's familiar with us and are too emotionally attached to give us sound advise instead of their own opinions.
In my early twenties (21 to be exact) I had to make a life changing decision about separating from a relationship that was highly toxic, filled with manipulation, mental and physical abuse. During that time, I compromised very important values,which included my mental well being and safety just so my children could have a father in their life, but also out of fear of being alone, (accompanied by the numerous opinions of others).
Being young and naive to people and their human nature, I sought guidance about my situation from those that knew me, (but didn't know the depths of my pain) including those that were masters of disguise that pretended to like me and have my best interest in mind. Among those were also the so called "Experts" that thought I was too young and dumb to make a decision without their expertise. As a result of listening to all of the opinions, it brought on more confusion and I began to question if I was making the right decision to separate from this unhealthy relationship at all.
It wasn't until I was able to separate from all of the familiar faces and opinions that I was able to find clear, balanced, healthy advice and it wasn't until I was able to take the time to go to the ultimate Guide and Navigator that gives life to all, which is God, in prayer to get answers for my dilemma. Sometimes it's not until we're in a place of solitude, that God can speak to us by making things clear and opening our eyes to reality. He'll also send someone that's not familiar with our history to give us clear, sound guidance that makes sense, even if it doesn't seem like the easiest choice at the time, but will produce the best results.
Too many times, we consult with the wrong people with the attempt of getting the best results. We feel that if people are close to us or very familiar with us, then they'll also have our best interest in mind, but usually, the same people are just as unhealthy as we are. Besides, God is not the author of confusion but peace and does not intend for us to cast all of our cares on people, tell them all of our business, and look to everybody under the sun for counsel. He wants us to cast our cares on Him (First) because He cares for us (I Peter 5:7) He knows us inside out and has our best interest at heart.